Dare: Quit Following People Who Drive You Crazy Online

Are you a hate-follower? I sometimes am. 

Are you a hate-follower? I sometimes am. 


Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Snapchat: I am on all sorts of social media platforms. I mostly follow friends, family, brands and people I like. But I have to admit, there are a few accounts I've grown to despise. Instead of unfollowing, I do something totally unhealthy. 


I hate-follow.


You're probably doing it, too. There's that person from high school who always posts things that are TMI or legitimately insane on Facebook. Or that person who clearly spends hours curating the perfect Instagram photo-- an overhead shot of their [super-trendy brand name] purse's contents all over a table, with lip gloss, a moleskin notebook and something intentionally quirky (M&Ms! A tiny teddy bear! Fruitstripe gum!) placed just so
 

Following some people makes my blood boil. 


And yet, I can't stop doing it! I recently realized I was addicted to scrolling through the feeds of people who lead these ridiculous online lives. There's a woman who always posts photos of herself in a bikini eating fried chicken and drinking a big gulp (you didn't eat that!), a guy who keeps posting inappropriate Facebook updates about his marriage (My wife sucks. Should I get a divorce?), and one woman who live-tweeted her birth (allegedly not attended by a doctor, midwife or doula :-/ ) from the woods. I never comment. I just hate-follow from a safe distance.
 

It's like a car wreck. I know I should stop, but I can't stop looking


And then boom, last week I saw a post from one of my hate-follow accounts. I spent a full minute going through all the feelings I had about some stupid, totally fake-y artsy photo they'd shared. Anger, frustration, and finally wanting to shake the person who posted said photo and scream get over yourself!!!! And then I had a moment of clarity.


Why do I do this to myself?  


So, I unfollowed them. And then I unfollowed their equally irritating girlfriend's account. And then the fried chicken girl. And then birth-from-the-woods lady. 
 

It felt so, so good.  


I don't know why I didn't do it sooner. Yes, actually I do. I fear missing out. I think we all feed off the crazy of social media. It gives us a hit of emotion-- happiness, sadness, excitement and even anger-- that can be completely addicting. I am guilty of it. But last week, I decided I'd had enough. Why do I need hits of frustration and anger many times a day? I don't. So I unfollowed. I already feel happier. And if for some reason I'm craving a hit of hate-follow, I can always just go look at their feeds. Just because I stopped following doesn't mean they've stopped posting. 

Be honest: who are you hate following?


Maybe you should take a break.


I dare you to unfollow the humble-bragger from work, or the person who lives the "perfect" life online (but in real-life, you know it's a mess!), or the gal who thinks you actually give a shit about the outfits she instagrams every day (with a big, fat LiketoKnowit link, or whatever). Hate following, while addictive and fun, probably isn't enhancing your life at all.  


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If you haven't noticed, I think quitting can be awesome. Here's a few ways that you could quit & make your life better!


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How to Let Go of Something You Feel Obligated to Keep

Birds symbolizing my real-life lesson in letting go.

Birds symbolizing my real-life lesson in letting go.


Quite some time ago, I interviewed Karen Young, the psychologist behind the mental health blog Hey Sigmund. I liked her site right away because A) the name and B) she writes truly helpful posts about depression, anxiety and mental wellness. Anyhow, one of the things she said really stuck with me:
 

Stop hanging on to what's trying to let go of you.


I think she's probably talking about stuff like a bad relationship (romantic, friendly, or with a toxic family member), a job that's keeping you down, or really anything that's causing emotional strife. But for whatever reason, these words brought to mind something I'd been struggling with for the last 12 years. 

This story begins at UW-Madison, where I somehow earned a degree in journalism and mass communications without sacrificing my partying.


My parents were so proud. 


During my sophomore year, I started dating a guy I'd met working at the newspaper. He wasn't my type at all. A total hipster before hipsters were a thing, small enough to wear my jeans, and an art major. My parents disliked him, most of my friends thought he was weird (he was) and even I was often like what am I doing right now? To be fair, I don't think many of his people thought much of me. 

College is a time of curiosity. You can date a starving artist and a musician and a football player and whoever the hell you want. That is what college is all about: learning who you are as an adult. That and education, of course.

I dated art guy for about six months. He was nice, and we had fun for awhile, and then the relationship ran its course.  
 

We broke up a week before my 21st birthday. 


I did the breaking. When my birthday rolled around, he text me and asked if he could drop something off at my apartment. I said sure. A half an hour later, he showed up with this:

The infamous chair.

The infamous chair.


Yeah, so.

A month before The End, he'd started painting the chair for me as a surprise. It was supposed to be the two of us. He looked exactly like himself. I ended up looking like a mix of Mariah Carey and myself, and not in a good way. I was pretty shocked that he'd given it to me after the breakup, but I guess what else was he going to do with it?


Bewildered, I accepted the chair.


Since receiving The Chair, I've moved six times. I've dated people, I eventually got engaged and married. And The Chair has been there for all of it.  

Do you drop off a piece of furniture with a painting of [sort of] your face at Goodwill? Or throw it away? Or what?! I just wasn't sure. It felt weird to just get rid of it... like when you see people's framed personal photos at a thrift store. Yet it also felt weird to have a chair with a painting of me and my ex-boyfriend sitting in the house I share with my husband. 


As I write this, I see the ridiculousness of the scenario.


I should've gotten rid of the chair long ago. Instead, I bought a seat cushion for it from Ikea and stuck it in our guest bedroom. 

It's not that I was really attached to The Chair in an emotional way (except I did love showing it to people at dinner parties. A fantastic conversation starter!). I never truly liked the thing, though maybe I was attached the gesture? Nobody else has painted something with my face on it, and I sincerely doubt it will ever happen again. Maybe it's like how Sharona feels every time she hears the song, "My Sharona." I was once thought of as so awesome it inspired ART! I felt obligated to keep the damn thing.

A few months ago, as I was KonMari-ing my house, I happened upon The Chair.


It was then I realized it must go.


It gave me no joy whatsoever. It gave me the opposite of joy. And it really, really bothered the guy who I'd vowed to honor and respect 'til death do us part.

I considered repainting it, but quickly ruled out that idea. No matter what it ended up looking like, it would always remind me (and my husband and friends and anyone else who knew the story) of my college boyfriend's strange declaration of his affection. 

Instead, I was reminded of my friend Carter's words. He owns a vintage furniture store and once told me that "any furniture you put in your back alley will eventually get picked up by someone." What I would think if I saw a random painted wooden chair sitting in a back alley? I'd probably love it! I'd wonder about the people on the chair, why someone might get rid of such a thing, and proudly display the odd piece in my entryway or something.  

Before I could change my mind, I picked up The Chair and put it at the end of our driveway. But not before I wrote a note on it and taped it to the bottom.

My college boyfriend painted this chair for me in 2003. We've long since broken up. I'm married (to someone else, obviously) and just need to get rid of it. Hope you enjoy this quirky piece of my history. 

Goodbye, chair.

Goodbye, chair.


Two days later, it was gone.


I finally stopped hanging on to what was trying to let go of me.
 

It felt surprisingly satisfying. I have no idea where it ended up, but it tickles me to think of this weird little chair sitting in someone else's house, spurring conversations about who may have owned it, and how someone could've ever just thrown away something so personal.

But this chair was never personal to me.

That's why it's important to ask yourself WHY you're hanging on to certain things. Who cares if it was your great-grandma's tea set if you don't like it? Or an ill-fitting itchy sweater your aunt Linda knit for you in 1998? If you don't like it, or it's done serving it's purpose, get rid of it! You can't be forced to feel a certain way about a gesture, heirloom or a gift. Even if your face is painted on it.

Besides, that's not my face. It's Mariah Carey's.


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Want to get rid of things? Me too! Here's how I got rid of tons of my clothes (nearly pain-free, too!), plus where to get rid of your unwanted crap

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This Week's Best Stuff on the Internet

In case you're one of the six people who hasn't watched this yet, I highly suggest you remedy that. Personally, I'm kind of like, "Adele has a new album. Good for her." I dunno, I guess I'm not much of a ballad gal. BUT I do love Adele the human being. She's so cute and funny and I wouldn't mind drinking five glasses of wine with her. 


Do you love shapewear (a la Spanx)? Trick question! Nobody does. But here are some shapewear alternatives that will have your clothes draping on your bod attractively without squeezing the crap out of your organs. 


I am highly interested in integrative (aka eastern meets western) medicine. Dara Moskowitz Grumdahl digs in to what makes it so great, plus why my home state of Minnesota is a leader in the field. Go us!


Fat pants feeling tight? Maybe your lymphatic system is on the fritz. Here's a few things you can do to get it back in order. 


I am mourning the death of David Bowie like whoa. I was a big, big fan, and it all started with the Labyrinth (if you haven't seen it, watch it!). It's one of those movies that sort of awakened me to all sorts of things back in tween years-- something I couldn't quite explain in my own words, but this BUST article by Ali Drucker states my feelings perfectly. 

And since we're on the topic....


Pete Wells, dining critic at the NYT, gave Señor Frog’s in Times Square a raving review. And I can't really blame him.


Feeling stressed? Here's 5 ways to reduce stress & boost your mood, including a coupon for my secret weapon, 5-HTP. 


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5 Ways to Reduce Stress & Boost Your Mood

Host a dinner party for your favorite people. 

Host a dinner party for your favorite people. 

Maybe it's the total lack of sunshine, temps in the single or negative digits, or that my summer glow has been replaced by a dry pallor, but winter often leaves me simultaneously stressed with a serious case of the blahs. And when I get the blahs, I make poor decisions. Not like spring break poor decisions, but like eating junk, laying around, feeling like a waste of space. Eventually my slothiness catches up to me, pushes my stress and anxiety into overdrive... which often leads me back to the junk food and the laying around.

Every year I make a conscious effort to break through the winter blahs. Here's five ways I do it.

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Try Something New

If you come here often, you know I am all about trying new stuff. Last weekend, I went snowmobiling for the first time. I was a little scared, preemptively embarrassed (because what if I looked stupid?!), and afraid I'd crash or fall through the ice (unlikely on a -17 degree day). But you know what? Spending a mere 10 minutes on the sled left me smiling, feeling accomplished and totally stress-free. I spent the rest of the day walking on air and reeking of exhaust. So whether is motorsports or trying a recipe, get out of your comfort zone and watch your blahs melt away. 

5-HTP

Hello, old friend. 

Hello, old friend. 

Nope, it's not C3PO's cousin. I've been taking 5-HTP on and off for years. My therapist (yep, not ashamed to admit I have one!) recommended it to me many years ago when I was feeling a wee bit stressed and anxious. It's a drug-free supplement that promotes positive mood, energy, and helps alleviate stress by helping body’s synthesis of serotonin. It's also known to boost your metabolism, which I've certainly noticed. But maybe I just had more energy to workout. Who knows. All I can say is that I love it. 

PS If you'd like to try 5-HTP, Natrol (the brand I've taken many times) is offering a $5 coupon here. Learn more about these guys via Twitter or Facebook.

Put the Pizza Down

If I want to feel stressed, bloated, sad and lethargic, I like to eat a bunch of pizza, then wait 20 minutes. Don't get me wrong, I love eating pizza. If I could eat it every day, I would. But if I did, you wouldn't want to be around me (and neither would anyone else). When I eat healthy things, like fruits, veggies, nuts and lean proteins, I am the best version of myself. Happier, healthier & certainly less stressed out. I've found that enjoying a smoothie packed with nutrients in the morning helps set me up for success the rest of the day. Here's a few ways I make sure my smoothies are extra delicious

Get Outside

Go walk your dang dog. 

Go walk your dang dog. 

Yes, it might be crazy cold where you live (sure is here in Minnesota!), but 30 minutes of fresh air boosts immunity, increases happiness, helps you get your daily vitamin D, and naturally energizes you. Anecdotally, I'll just say that taking my dog on a 45 minute walk is often the thing I look forward to most-- after some fresh air, I am relaxed and ready to get back to work, with a smile on my face to boot. 

Host a dinner party

Hanging out with the people I love is literally what gets me though winter. It's rejuvenating, fun and puts me in a great mood for days. If the thought of hosting a dinner party stresses you out, maybe just order takeout. Or subtly suggest the idea to a friend who loves to cook & will host. You get all the benefits, without all the dirty dishes.  


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What are your go-to stress reducers? Oooo I forgot Epsom salt baths! And taking three long, deep breaths. Those are great, too. Anyhow, share your tips in the comments. 



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9 Healthy Tricks To Boost Your Morning Smoothie

This berry smoothie tastes as good as it looks. 

This berry smoothie tastes as good as it looks. 


I've been on and off the smoothie train for the better part of two decades. In the 90s, I was so down with frozen yogurt, syrups and maybe some actual frozen fruit (so healthy, right? PS let's call those "smoothies" what they really are: ice cream). These days, I try to pack as many nutrients into my glass as possible. Usually frozen fruit, a big handful of spinach, some cold-pressed juice, and a few less common ingredients. Here's how I gussy up my drink.
 

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Acid

Citrus juice is the salt of the fruits! 

Citrus juice is the salt of the fruits! 

No, I'm not talking about LSD (thought that would probably take your day in a very interesting direction). I mean citrus fruits. I like to think of citrus as the fruit version of salt-- a generous squeeze of juice enhances flavors and brightens up everything. Since I often use tropical fruits in my smoothies, my normal go-to is juice from half a lime (unless your lime isn't yielding much juice. Then go nuts and use both halves). But lemons, oranges and even grapefruit work well, too. 

Mint

The only reason I don't put mint in my smoothie is because I'm out. 

The only reason I don't put mint in my smoothie is because I'm out. 

The only reason I don't put fresh herbs in my morning smoothie is because I'm out. Mint is a go-to lately. I think it tastes great with berries, tropical fruits, and even a banana/nut butter smoothie. Think about where you see mint normally-- juleps, mojitos (super-refreshing drinks, right?) and rich, chocolate-y desserts. It's a versatile herb and trust me, you'll love it all blended up for breakfast. I usually add four or five springs to my drink, stems removed.

Nut Butter

Dear Costco, Thank you for selling nearly everything I need to make delicious smoothies. 

Dear Costco, Thank you for selling nearly everything I need to make delicious smoothies. 

A tablespoon of nut butter adds a rich, full flavor to literally any smoothie. Even if you're like... hmm, I'm not sure nut butter goes with this, trust me. It does. My favorite is almond butter, but sun butter (made with sunflower seeds) also works. So does peanut butter, but I try to avoid it as there's some evidence that peanut butter isn't really that good for you, and so if I'm going to eat it, it's going to be in a Reeses peanut butter cup.

Hemp Seeds

No, you can smoke this. 

No, you can smoke this. 

This is a new ingredient for me, and I am loving it. I'm currently doing an eat well challenge with my gym, and we're avoiding dairy... which means whey protein powder is out. Hemp seeds (Whole30 approved, if you give a crap about stuff like that) are rich in omega-3, omega-6 and offer 10g of protein per serving. I don't personally notice a huge difference in the flavor or texture of my smoothies, but my hubby says they add a bit of a nutty flavor. Either way, a tablespoon or two does the trick.  

Cilantro

Cilantro, not just for salsa anymore. 

Cilantro, not just for salsa anymore. 

Either you're a cilantro person or you're not. If not, move along to the next ingredient. If you like it, you still might be wondering why in the hell you'd add it to a smoothie. Here's where we hold hands and take an imaginary trip to Thailand. Cilantro is a stand-out ingredient in that tropical cuisine, and it pairs so well with pineapple, mango and banana. Add a tablespoon of nut butter, a squeeze of lime and it's like all the good parts of pad thai with some awesome fruit mixed in. I'll take six or seven sprigs, remove most of the stems and toss the leaves in the blender.

Avocado

Before you get all ewwwww on me, let's talk about how avocado is eaten everywhere except north america. We certainly love our guac, and there's few things I enjoy more than pimping out a BLT with avocado, but in many places around the world, avocados are reserved for sweet, not savory purposes. I'm talking ice cream, shakes, pudding... you name it! And it makes sense. The stuff is creamy, rich and basically should just be called vegan butter. Add half an avocado to your smoothie for a boost of good fats, fiber and loads of vitamins.  

Almond Milk

Califia Farms almond milk... or as I like to call it, Wiz Khalifa Farms. 

Califia Farms almond milk... or as I like to call it, Wiz Khalifa Farms. 

I'm not going to get all preachy about why I prefer almond milk over cow's milk in my morning smoothie... especially since I still eat cheese on occasion and drink coffee with half-and-half because it's delicious. But almond milk is my go-to choice most of the time. It's got more calcium than milk (no matter what you want us to believe, Got Milk? campaign!), and doesn't make you fart all day long. My favorite brand BY FAR is the unsweetened version from Califia Farms (or as I like to call it, Wiz Khalifa Farms)-- this one doesn't have any sugar, which is quite notable once you start reading your ingredients. Guys, just because it sounds healthy doesn't mean it necessarily is.  

Basil

Hey! More fresh herbs! There's no better way to make your berry smoothie more delicious than by adding basil. And nut butter. Do you see a pattern here?

Stainless Steel Straws

Get these straws and thank me later.

Get these straws and thank me later.

Not an ingredient, but I bought these over seven years ago and I still use them all the time. Drinking a smoothie out of a straw is way more enjoyable than gulping it straight from the glass. However, plastic straws are pretty darn wasteful (not to mention they're flimsy AF). These stainless steel ones elevate your smoothie experience from basic to awesome. Worth the very small investment. 

*** Super Important Smoothie Tip ***

Since I already have your attention (maybe, unless you quit reading after I my fart comment earlier), I'd like to draw your attention to a conversation that happened between me, my mom and mother-in-law over Christmas. My mom said her last teeth cleaning took forever, and my MIL (who runs a dental office) asked if she drinks a lot of smoothies. Bingo.

As it turns out, if you don't brush your teeth right after finishing your freshly pressed juice, smoothie or lemon water, your teeth get a nice coating of film that takes lot of elbow grease to remove. It also can wreak havoc on your enamel (especially for you lemon water drinkers!). My MIL's professional advice: Brush your teeth with water after ever smoothie or juice you drink. When it comes to tooth enamel, there are no backsies. And while smoothies are delicious, you don't want a liquid diet to one day be your only option. The MIL said she's seen a crazy amount of young people with enamel issues already, and think this may be the culprit. 

So now you know.

What's your favorite smoothie ingredient? The weirder the better (actually, just plain delicious is good for me, too). Share in the comments!

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Looking for more healthy eating tips? Great, I got a few (though I am no nutrition coach, I am a lover of delicious food). Here's how doing a Whole30 will actually make you feel, plus my before and after Whole30 pics. Oh also! A bunch of healthy-ish cookie recipes
 

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How to Have the Layoff of Your Dreams

This is way better than hanging out in a cubicle!

This is way better than hanging out in a cubicle!

Amy Smith is an incredibly smart, driven woman who's enthusiastic and fun at after-work happy hours (well, I don't know this for sure, but I think she's fun at regular happy hours so...). So 2015 when her boss gently broke the news that her job had been eliminated, Amy was gobsmacked. She went through all the feelings you'd imagine: fear, shame, self-doubt, anger... you name it. But after a series of events, her mindset shifted. Now she says getting laid off is the best thing that ever happened to her. Here's how it all went down.  

 

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Tell me about the day you were laid off.

A few days before it all happened, I got a weird “meeting” invite on my calendar so I had a hunch that something was wrong. I kept trying to tell myself I was being crazy. I mean, how bad could it be, really? I was doing a job I loved and people seemed to genuinely appreciate the work I was doing, so I figured whatever it was couldn’t be that big a deal. 

When I got to the meeting, there was no one around and I ended up waiting by myself in the hallway for what seemed like forever.

When my manager and director arrived, they jumped right in and it took no more than two seconds to get the news that my job had been eliminated. I was stunned to say the least, but what could I do? I had to hold it together the best way I knew how.


How did you feel immediately after it happened? Scared? Hurt? Relieved? Embarrassed?

That moment is one that will likely stay with me forever. It was like being doused with a cold bucket of water. I had no idea what to say or do – I mean – how do you prepare for something like that? Fear, disbelief, anger, shame, embarrassment – you name it, it was there.

Sitting in that chair, I went immediately into reactive mode, trying to figure out how I could stem the tide. Were there other jobs available? Would I be considered for them? I had no idea what to expect.

Where I feel like I just got so, so lucky is that my director immediately addressed all of those fears. She said point blank, “All I can tell you is that we asked you to do a job and you did it. Look at our team now. They’re self-sufficient because you taught them, but unfortunately it means you’re out of a job.”

Hearing someone reiterate the value my work added was so critical. Without it, I don’t know that I’d be where I am today.


What was the first week after your layoff like?

I was so raw in those first few days. The fear and emotion of everything that was opened up was overwhelming at times, but I just continued taking one more step forward until I got back on my feet again.

I’d been given 60 days to find another job within the company, so I continued to go to work every day, interacting with my peers. Letting my co-workers know was probably one of the hardest things I had to do. Suddenly, I felt so separate from everyone else, so vulnerable. Luckily, I was welcomed with big open arms. That sense of community and support is what got me through the hardest of days.
 

After losing your job, you ended up taking a trip to New Zealand? Why?

My experience transitioning out of corporate was honestly gratifying (strange, I know!). For 60 days, I did nothing but network... The more I did, the more confidence I picked up and by the time my 60 days ended, I had come to a place of peace. I felt confident that I could find a new job when I was ready. Plus, I had this whole new army of supporters, which was an incredible feeling.

Networking with the New Zealand wildlife.

Networking with the New Zealand wildlife.

Once I knew I would be ok, my thinking completed shifted and I started to see all kinds of possibilities. New Zealand was one of them. How often do you get to travel open-ended, especially once you’ve started a career? Instead of trudging through a Minnesota winter, I enjoyed a double-summer!

Hang gliding in New Zealand

Hang gliding in New Zealand

 

What was the trip like?

The trip was 100 percent life-changing. I’ve traveled a lot, but always with a schedule. This time I felt completely unburdened. I literally picked up my backpack, bought a one-way ticket and said “I’ll come back when I come ready.”

Apparently you can fit your life in a backpack this small.

Apparently you can fit your life in a backpack this small.

For more than two months, I lived out of that backpack, sleeping in hostels and hiking almost every day. New Zealand is an outdoor lover’s paradise. It’s mountainous and beautiful everywhere you go. There are incredible beaches, hot water waterfalls (like an outdoor hot tub you can sit in!), glaciers, birds, glow-worm caves – so many things you just don’t see anywhere else.

Are you into glow worms caves? Then you should probably go to New Zealand. 

Are you into glow worms caves? Then you should probably go to New Zealand. 

I found myself feeling creative and whole again – like I was finally able to draw on my full resources and capability. Ideas started flowing. It was a truly joyful time.

A long way from corporate America.

A long way from corporate America.


You’re currently writing a book called The Layoff of Your Dreams: How to Make Lemonade When Work Gives You Lemons. Was there a specific moment that made you realize, hey, maybe this layoff is a gift?

When I realized that life was providing for me. I’d begun to meet with people I really resonated with – something I’d struggled to do early in my career – and suddenly I had all these new options. The reality is, those options were available to me all along, I was just so focused on what was right in front of me that I didn’t even see them as possibilities. At that point, I was able to look at the layoff in a completely new light. It became an opportunity to choose what I wanted to do next and that was a huge gift.
 

Since getting laid off you started your own company. Tell us about it.

My new company is called The Lemonry, which is a take-off on the title of my book.

Hot shizzz CEO, Amy Smith.

Hot shizzz CEO, Amy Smith.

At The Lemonry, we provide coaching for individuals ready to make a change. This process is powerful, transformative and actionable as we work together to intentionally design the future.

There are many reasons that people become ready to make a powerful change. It may be job related or it may just be that sense that there's something missing. At The Lemonry, we help individuals and organizations get unstuck. 

We love working with people who seek jobs more aligned with their values. We also love working with executives at small/medium sized businesses, who are knowledgable about their subject matter, but overwhelmed with actually managing of the business. They have ideas, but can't seem to bring them to life. We help with clarifying goals, identifying ideas and communicating them effectively.

We also provide workshops for groups and teams to build alignment, increase productivity, and leverage the unique skills of each person.
 

Had you been thinking about this company prior to your layoff? Do you think you would’ve taken the leap on your own?

I’ve always been drawn to coaching, so it’s no surprise that I’ve ended up here. It’s so rewarding to see that light bulb moment when a new idea or solution becomes crystal clear for a client. Add that to my business background and there’s a whole host of things that I love to work on – and now get to do every day!

Would I have done it without the push? No, I honestly don’t think so, and therein lies the gift!


What are three things you learned through your layoff that you think would help other folks in the same situation?

Layoffs are tough – for everyone involved – but the more you can separate what’s happening to the work from what’s happening in yourself, the easier it is. Businesses move and shake so you’re definitely not alone. While layoffs have a huge impact on individuals, they are not about individuals so it’s important to separate those two.

Allow yourself to grieve for a while – it takes time to come to terms with what’s happened and that’s ok. Give yourself a break.

Reach out and stay connected to friends, family and co-workers. This can be a hard one, but it’s so critical. Not only can these supporters remind you of your value and skills, but your brain functions better with others around so get that brain revving before you start making decisions about what you’ll do next!

Stand in your value. The work you’ve done is something to be proud of. No matter what an organization is going through, your work makes a difference and the very thing that seems so ordinary in one organization may be a skill that’s critically need at another organization. You are worth it!


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Learn more about Amy's latest venture by visiting TheLemonry.com.

 

PS Here's another story of an awesome woman who lost her job, then started her own business and is killing it!
 

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